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Walk It Out inspirations explores physical steps to achieve and overcome challenges or take action to move forward despite obstacles or setbacks with the goal of motivating, empowering, and inspiring listeners to take steps toward their personal growth and success through practical tips, strategies, time management, and other skills. Episodes feature interviews with individuals from a variety of backgrounds that share stories of triumph and truth that offer diverse ranges of perspectives and ideas.
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Marriage by Kingdom Design
What if your marriage was designed to be more than just a relationship, but a powerful spiritual force with divine purpose?
We dive deep into Tony Evans' transformative book "Kingdom Marriage," examining the first three foundational chapters that explore origin, order, and opposition. These concepts aren't just theoretical—they're the building blocks that determine whether your marriage merely exists or truly thrives with kingdom purpose.
The origin of marriage reveals God's blueprint: a union designed not primarily for happiness but for purpose. When two people bring their individual callings together, they create something exponentially more powerful than what they could accomplish alone. As scripture reminds us, one can chase a thousand, but two can chase ten thousand.
We candidly share our own journey through seven years of marriage, including the sometimes uncomfortable truth about submission. "You're not submitting to your husband in the flesh," we explain, "you're submitting to the God in your husband." This perspective transforms the entire conversation about order in marriage—it's not about control, but about acceptance and trust in the God working through your spouse.
The enemy knows that a unified couple is dangerous to his plans. That's why he targets marriages with division, resentment, and miscommunication. Understanding this opposition helps couples recognize when they're under spiritual attack versus just having normal disagreements. Prayer together becomes not just a nice habit but essential spiritual protection.
Whether you're newlyweds, marriage veterans, or even single and preparing for future relationships, these principles apply universally. The foundation laid in these chapters will transform how you view relationships of all kinds.
Join us as we continue this series, working through more chapters in future episodes. If you've been struggling to find purpose in your relationship or simply want to elevate your marriage to new spiritual heights, this conversation provides both the inspiration and practical guidance you've been seeking.
Thank you. Relationships are a part of the beauty blocks for healthy life and spiritual growth. God uses relationships to help move us farther into our destiny and to help us grow in Christ. Healthy relationships are not bound for guilt. A healthy relationship needs commitment and willingness to be accommodating to each other's needs. Marriage is more than a physical union. It is also a spiritual and emotional union. According to Ecclesiastes 4, verse 9, two are better than one. So, therefore, what God has joined together, let no one separate. No one separates Kingdom marriage in its purpose, kingdom marriage in its purpose.
Speaker 3:Good evening. Good evening good evening everybody, hello, hello, everyone.
Speaker 2:Yes.
Speaker 3:Thank you, we are the Purpose Couple.
Speaker 2:We are the Purpose.
Speaker 3:Couple With Walk it Out Inspirations.
Speaker 2:Yes.
Speaker 3:Thank you. We are glad that you guys can join in. Listen as you guys come on in, go ahead like share tag, tell everybody that we are on this evening. We are excited because we are starting our segment with books and we are excited because we are going to start talking about our first book. Yep, Tony Evans, Kingdom Marriage.
Speaker 2:We are definitely looking forward to a lot of good stuff in there. A lot of good stuff, people.
Speaker 3:Yes, definitely Listen. It was so much it was, it was so much within the book that we decided we got to dissect it. His words say you know, I get and get it.
Speaker 2:I understand that, so we slow walk in this thing and we decided we got to dissect it.
Speaker 3:It's worth saying all that good and getting understanding. So we slow walking this thing, so we started reading it and today we're going to discuss the first three O's, that is, within the book, which is origin order and opposition.
Speaker 3:And man. These are foundational, especially that origin, having an understanding of what a kingdom marriage is and the significance of it and the relations to it, right, right. So I am super, super, super ecstatic. So let's go ahead and dive right on in and, as we always do, we invite the Holy Spirit in and we're going to go ahead and pray and let him have his way. All right, amen, okay, dear Heavenly Father, we thank you. We thank you as this is the day that you have made Lord. We thank you that we've made it through this day. Lord, god, we thank you for bringing revelation to us as we read the literature that you will have us to read, that we may get a full understanding, lord, god, I thank you that the same revelation interpretation that you have given us. I thank you that we will be able to relay the same information to your people, lord God, that they may have full understanding of what it is to have a kingdom relationship and a kingdom marriage. We forever give you glory, honor and praise, and it's in Jesus' name we pray. Amen.
Speaker 3:Listen, this is nighttime. Good night, meek, meek. It is the evening time. It is around the time that our children and everyone goes to bed, so you may hear a few telling us good night. We still have our mommy duties. That was my brother. Thank God for him. So let's go ahead and dive in. I want to talk about the you want to go in order.
Speaker 2:The origin first.
Speaker 3:I mean, it only makes sense. I wouldn't go backwards because I feel like then that's out of order. Isn't that one of the ones? Order she's right, she's right. Ones order she's right, she's right, she's right, she's right. That is yeah, we want to stay in order.
Speaker 2:All right, okay, so let's start with a question.
Speaker 3:Okay, what you got.
Speaker 2:So how many of you guys took time to dive into the book, to check it out and see if you have any questions or what's the revelation you may have gotten? There are a lot of gems in this book. Especially the first part is what gets you really interested, because there's so much revelation in the first chapter that gets the conversation flowing for the coming chapters. So we just want to know how many people may have decided to get into this book, and if you haven't, you need to, I mean it's't you need to.
Speaker 3:Yeah, I mean it's not really a need to. I mean we would have, I'll say this I would have yeah. We recommend this book. We do recommend this book.
Speaker 3:We definitely recommend this book. If you are a married couple, we definitely recommend this book for those that are married. It does have a lot of information in there, informative information that will provide wisdom on how to have a successful marriage. Yes, that is the book. So, listen, it's not too late if you haven't had the opportunity because, listen, this is pillow talk. Right, we're going to go a little bit in and talk a little bit about that as well. This is this is pillow time. This is that opportunity, it's that moment, it's that chance that you can actually you guys can read the book together and dissect it and talk about it and speak about what God is showing you and what he's giving you and vice versa, and this is that moment where you can pour into your spouse and you guys are pouring into one another. Having that pillow talk is so important, as we've discussed in prior episodes about communication and how important communication is. Listen, we got so deep into the book. Listen, we're still at, we are just finishing and going to wrap up chapter three.
Speaker 3:But, which is opposition? Because it was so much and there was so much revelation within that that, honestly speaking, and had us take a step back and really look into our marriage. Yes, we've been married for seven years. However, there's always room for growth and there's always room for changes, so we literally had to take a step back. Okay, we're going to do another seven years together. We're going to do another 10 years together. Okay, what could we do differently to better our marriage? What things do we need to work on? What areas do we need to strengthen? So that was very good.
Speaker 2:That gave us an opportunity and chance to talk about that as well. All right, speaking of chance, if you haven't had a chance, it's not too late. We'll discuss this book in several segments, so it's good we have time to dissect this book. It cannot just be read. It must be processed piece by piece in order to get full revelation and understanding, as it says in this word.
Speaker 3:Yeah, in all, you're getting, yeah, get an understanding, yes, so let's go into origin. I want to talk about origin, okay, so the origin of a kingdom marriage, as our show is called. Well, one of the segments of our show is called Kingdom Marriage and its Purpose, and we call ourselves the Purpose, purpose, yeah, purpose. We call ourselves the Purpose Couple. So I want to talk about that, though. Like what is the origin of a marriage, of a kingdom marriage? Like what should be expected, so to speak, or what should you look forward to in a kingdom marriage, like what's the foundation of it.
Speaker 2:The foundation of a kingdom marriage. Like, what's the foundation of it? The foundation of a kingdom marriage, God Jesus is the foundation. We should try to emulate, or try as close as we can to emulate the teaching things that we read in Bible, the ways that I guess. Just see you don't want to put quotes on anything. You want to be decent people, you know. You want to be truthful, you want to be, um, respectful. There's a lot of uh, there are a lot of values that we should try to uphold, and that's as a couple, family. You know, you as a wife and a mother, you as a father and a husband.
Speaker 3:So did I answer that right by the way you started.
Speaker 2:Don't tell me there's no wrong answers.
Speaker 3:Okay, darling, there is no wrong answers.
Speaker 2:Oh man thank you.
Speaker 3:Thank you for that. So, a kingdom marriage of course it does share passion and also, as he stated in the book, it has a purpose. And if we go back to Genesis, when he said, let us make man into our own image, first he created man and then he created woman, and so with that, the purpose of it was to fulfill God's purpose. So, as he gave them responsibilities on earth, to have dominion over the earth, meaning to manage the things that he has already created, so within a marriage, there is a purpose. So it's your purpose and your spouse's purpose that is coming together and becoming one. So, as a king, I'm going to speak from the kingdom wife perspective. As a kingdom wife, our responsibilities is we are the nurturers, we are the ones who assist with multiplying what has already been placed inside of our husbands. How do we do that? We continue to speak life, we continue to pour into them, we continue to pray, we continue to give advice where advice is needed, or provide suggestions, not necessarily taking over or trying to control anything.
Speaker 2:Suggestions, not necessarily taking over or trying to control anything. That's interesting that you said that, because that ties into the definition of people, definition of when you hear about the man is head of the house or the head of the woman, and it's not. They say submission like submit to your husband. They say submission like submit to your husbands Right, it's. The submission is like you would ask what was I going to say? It was. It's like it's like counsel. It's like we would we counsel each other. It's not submitting to. It's like as a, as a partnership, we run things to each other. Now you may run it through me, but it's not me being the head of you. There's another word I'm looking for. It'll come to me. It'll come to me.
Speaker 3:Hey, you're getting ahead of yourself here. We're still in origin here. Now you're trying to go into order, but that's okay, yeah, yeah, right, right, order, order.
Speaker 2:And she said I've been out of order like all week. So, that's just me. I'm out of order this week and it's only Wednesday.
Speaker 3:It's okay, because God has a way of reeling us back in and aligning us when we do um, tend to um get out of order, but that is absolutely fine and, honestly, it's not out of order really, because that is the next thing that we are talking about, which is order, and within that, you're absolutely right that scripture does say. However, I want to go back to origin.
Speaker 3:To origin honestly speaking, before we can go into order, one must understand the foundation of, you know, the, the marriage. And, honestly speaking, when I'm staying in my lane, when god, when god says let, when he said, let us make man in our own image. And he made man and woman. He utilized that to be a mirrored image of his relationship with what he has created with us, his relationship with the earth, how he tended to the earth, how he tends to us, how. It's interesting, because he made man and woman, but he was still that provider, he was still that protector, right Over both man and woman. So he exemplified those attributes of what he instilled in a man and, so far as in, what he instilled in a man is those very things being protected, being the provider, you know being the one.
Speaker 3:However, how does a man be able to do that? He must, first, because submission goes both ways. Submission goes the man must submit unto God as the woman submits unto him, and so, with that, what that means is that, ladies because I know hearing that it's like, oh, it sounds like a curse word, it sounds like what that means. I don't have a say so. No, not at all. What that means is submission simply means acceptance. That means that I trust your leadership, I trust what you're saying. Now, I will admit y'all, sometimes you question some things that you may not agree on. Things, of course, that you may not agree on, of course. That's like uh, this is not sitting well with my spirit. I. I think this is a little off right here. However, even in that, there is a way to bring suggestion right. Uh, have a conversation, babe, I hear what you're saying. However, have you ever considered this?
Speaker 2:That's fair, because the man is probably trusting his spirit. If he's spiritual, he's probably being led by the spirit and, although you may not see it, there's the communication. You being spiritual, you, you being spiritual, also understand that. You know, and I understand, that you have a Holy Spirit as well. So, you being led by the spirit, you're being led to question.
Speaker 3:So there's nothing wrong with that. I have a question.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 3:Now I'm playing devil's advocate. Ok, devil's advocate, I have a question.
Speaker 2:I'm playing devil's advocate, Okay devil's advocate.
Speaker 3:I have a question, though, right, what about when it's not being led by the spirit, but their flesh?
Speaker 2:Well then there's where oh, you're talking about who, the husband or the wife?
Speaker 3:The husband.
Speaker 2:All right.
Speaker 3:Because you said the husband is If you discern that.
Speaker 2:If you think that that's what it is, I think everything is deserving of a conversation. If that's what you feel, if he should, I mean, if he's mature enough in the spirit, he should know whether he's being led by the spirit or the flesh it's. You'll just have to, you know, the woman will just have to trust it. You have to trust that he, you know. But bringing it to his attention, we'll have, you know, maybe within himself he'll question it and, you know, make the adjustment If he, if he feels that, you know, he'll go to God and be like you know, is this my flesh or am I being led by spirit? And God, give him his answer.
Speaker 3:So listen, y'all those who are tuning in this is Walking Out Inspirations. We are the Purpose Couple and right now we are dissecting and we are discussing the book Tony Evans Kingdom Marriage, and right now we're diving into the three O's, the first three chapters of the book, which is origin, order and opposition. So right now we're in between, talking about origin and order at the same time, because they do go hand in hand. Listen, if you haven't had the opportunity, go ahead like share tag someone, let them know that we are on. We are grateful for those that are watching live and we are also grateful for our podcast listeners, those that are listening in on iTunes, those that are listening on iHeartRadio. We are thankful and thank God for you as well as listeners. Continue to tune in, as we have so many more exciting things to come.
Speaker 3:So, with that being said, right, with you saying that and that's good and that's great, I want to go because you know I like to take stuff to the word. You know I like to provide receipts. Hello, mr Nita, welcome. Glad you can join us, glad you can tune in. I want to dive in. You know I like to take stuff to the word, I like receipts, right and I like to show the evidence based on what is spoken in his words. So Ephesians 5, 22 through 25, right the NIV version. It reads wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord, for the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior.
Speaker 2:Okay, that's part of what it's talking about.
Speaker 3:Right.
Speaker 2:Submitting yourself yeah.
Speaker 3:And then it says now, as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands and everything. Husbands love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her. So I want to go into that a little bit, because that portion it said wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands. However, the flip side to that was the flip side to that was the fact that the husbands had to be submissive to the Lord. I want to continue talking about the submission because I feel it is so important within a marriage and understanding, even as a kingdom wife, the submission, to be honest with you, submission starts in your singleness, for both husbands and wives. Submission starts in your singleness because when you have positioned yourself to be submissive to God first, when you do get married, that submission wives, women. It's not a big deal, it's not a struggle, it's not a fight, it's not a I'm not going to do this or I'm not going to do that or I refuse, because you've already aligned yourself. Because, honestly speaking, thank you, holy Spirit. Honestly speaking, when you're submitting to your husband, you're not truly submitting to your husband, you're submitting to the God in your husband. I'm going to say that one more time. When you're submitting, you're not submitting to your husband in the flesh, you're submitting to the God in your husband. So that means I trust the God in you and because in my singleness I've already been submissive to God and I see God in you, it's easy for me to submit to you. I see God in you, it's easy for me to submit to you. And for husbands, as you continue to submit unto God, as you continue to submit unto God you have when you do get married, it's easy for you to continue with that Right. So y'all see how that chain works Husbands, wives. It works on both ends.
Speaker 3:The scripture says a cord of three strands is not quickly torn apart, not quickly torn apart. A lot of times in marriages what happens is you'll have the husband, you'll have the wife, and what happens is they remove God out of the center of their marriage, forgetting the purpose of their marriage. And what happens is I love. When God had given me this, he said what happens is when you move me out of the center, all you get is an entanglement, which is a twist, which is easy to unravel. So you got the wife on a whole nother field and the husband on a whole nother field. So now, what was one now has been divided, and y'all know a house divided cannot stand. That's right. Why? Because God was taken out of the center of their marriage. God is what keeps that marriage hold sealed, where that three-stranded cord is not easy to be broken and it's not easy to be torn apart.
Speaker 3:Because he said what I put together, no man can part that's right so, with that being said, going back to that submission, as you wives are submitted to God and submitted to the God in your husband, and as your husband is submitted to God, god continues. Y'all come together right as God continues to be the center of your marriage. God is just not at the forefront. God said I need to be in the center so that I can keep you guys together and you guys can stay on one accord. It's no longer two but it's one.
Speaker 2:Yes, yep, one must be happy, single, like you said. Happy, and that's the other thing. You don't look for happiness in marriage.
Speaker 3:You definitely don't. That that's the other thing that honestly tears marriages apart, because you go in like, oh you make me so happy, oh, I'm happy, and then, the minute that they don't do something right or something, don't feel I'm not happy anymore. Okay, well, what happened to the happiness? Right, honestly speaking, happiness comes naturally with purpose, right? Yep, once happiness begins in your singleness, you should already be happy. You know what I say y'all? I say my husband has made me happier. I was already happy. However, he added to my happiness.
Speaker 2:That's right. You should not look for anyone to make you happy.
Speaker 3:Right Now, don't get me wrong.
Speaker 2:The joy of the Lord is your strength.
Speaker 3:Right, exactly, anybody make you happy.
Speaker 2:It's in the Lord is your strength.
Speaker 3:Right, exactly, it doesn't make anybody make you happy. It's in the Lord that brings you happiness, that brings you joy, and when you understand your purpose as an individual. When God brought my husband and I together, it was with a purpose and it's interesting because both of our purposes aligned with one another and where we wanted to go in the future Right. So, although I was the one that fought and was against and tried to fight against it, didn't want it, didn't want it. All of the above, which brings me to the next scripture Talking about where it said that the husbands love your wives as Christ loves the church.
Speaker 3:I want to go to the next scripture, jeremiah 31 and 3. That says the Lord appears to us in the past saying I have loved you with an everlasting love. I have drawn you with unfailing kindness. Why did I bring that scripture up? I brought that scripture up because, although I was fighting against him, his love drew me, him, his love drew me. Why it drew me? Because I saw the God in him and his love. I felt like God was loving me through him. I had never felt the love like that before. It was scary y'all. It really was.
Speaker 2:And confirmation in my singleness. That's why I learned to love, though, because the Lord was showing me love in my singleness, and that's why I learned. That's why I learned to love.
Speaker 3:And honestly, as the scripture says, love covers the multitude of sin. As the scripture says, love covers the multitude of sin. It was with his love that he loved the bitterness and the anger and the rage and all of those things out of me. It was cute. I'm glad that you think so.
Speaker 3:Now I can say that In the beginning it was not, but, as that scripture stated, because, remember, the husband is submitted to god. So in that submission, the husband has learned to love, with an everlasting love that draws you, that draws the woman, with unfailing kindness and it says everlasting there, but a synonym would be uh, unconditional unconditional, with no, no conditions. I learned incentives no, no pretense. I'm not, I'm not looking for when we can thank you holy spirit, with no conditions. I will love you if right, right.
Speaker 3:It wasn't under that and and, and I can confirm that he loved me when I did not show love towards him. Not that I didn't love him. Honestly, I was scared of love. After a while. However, it was his continuation and the consistency in his everlasting, unconditional love towards me that opened my eyes, and light bulb went off Like wait a minute.
Speaker 2:When you love that way, it comes easy. It comes easy Because you can't be offended at that point. If you're easily offended, then yeah. But if it's my desire to love unconditionally, you can be the way you want to be Doesn't mean that has to change me, and you know that's my, that's my that's my language. Love is my language anyway.
Speaker 3:So yeah, yeah, yeah, definitely. Blessings, taisha. Thank you for joining in this Y'all. This is getting really really good. I hope you guys are getting something out of this. Listen those that have tuned in. We definitely want to welcome you to Kingdom Marriage and its Purpose, as we are the Purpose Couple. Listen y'all. Go ahead and continue. Those that are watching live continue to tag some people in.
Speaker 2:Currently we are in this book right here.
Speaker 3:Yes, tony Evans' Kingdom Marriage. We are dealing with the first three chapters that deal with origin, order and opposition. So at this moment we are going to take a short break, we're going to take a commercial break and we will be right back with you. Y'all enjoy the music and kind of groove and kind of think about some of the stuff that we've already discussed. All right, we'll be right back with you. Thank you all. Right, we are back. We are back.
Speaker 3:Listen, y'all just uh, saw the commercial about writing, speaking of writing, and we're dealing with books and we're doing this pillow talk thing where we're reading books together and dissecting them together and having discussions. Listen, there is an opportunity those that are aspiring authors that have books out there. We do have another segment Speaking to the Kingdom in you, with me being the host of that segment. I am looking to interview some aspiring authors. If you are an aspiring author and would like to be interviewed and would like or an opportunity for us to kind of dissect and talk about your book and bring some publicity to your book. Listen, you can reach out to us at podcast at empower me LLCcom. You can send us an email at podcast at empower me LLCcom If you're interested. I want to go back into order, because one of the things that I like that Tony Evans did when he was talking about order the example that he lines no lane dividers. None of the above, can you imagine?
Speaker 3:how that drive would be. I think you can. I think you can. Why are you trying to say something, by the way. I don't know. Sometimes I wonder do you see the lines or do you not?
Speaker 2:Wow.
Speaker 3:Wow, wow.
Speaker 2:So See, that's what you get for getting people's safety. But I got you, I got what you mean.
Speaker 3:I found it very interesting because we know without order, there is nothing but chaos.
Speaker 3:And, as his word says, god is not the author of confusion, neither is he about chaos. He is a God of decency and order. So with that, according to biblical principle, the structure of a kingdom household is God, the husband, wife, children. However, although it seems that way, it seems like hierarchy God husband, wife is down here. Okay, it is here Because you guys are one, that's right. It's not this, it's this, that's right.
Speaker 3:Why do you think God sat up there and said you know what? I'm going to take it from the side. So men don't get the big head and think, oh, why he ain't take it from the leg, why he ain't pull it from the foot, which is up underneath? He pulled it from the side because he wanted to give a reminder. Hey, men, yes, I know I said why submit that? Your wife is going to submit it to you, but don't get it twisted. Y'all are side by side. You're not above her and she's not above you. Y'all are equal. So I have a question does one get to that point where either party feels like, oh, you're trying to be over me or, oh, you're trying to control? How do we balance? How does it, but how do we bring a balance?
Speaker 2:I think purpose is what balances that.
Speaker 3:But what if I, what if they don't?
Speaker 2:if they don't know what their purpose? What if they don't know the purpose?
Speaker 3:What if we don't know the purpose?
Speaker 2:Well, you should know your own purpose first, isn't that right?
Speaker 3:I would hope so.
Speaker 2:Yeah, if you knew your purpose and I knew my purpose, we should. I guess if you're in Christ, you will figure out where you guys will be able to help each other. I know you have another answer, so just go ahead. You asked me because you have an answer.
Speaker 3:No, this is good because, okay, you said you need to know your purpose individually. Okay, what if I know my purpose individually? You know your purpose individually. But then we get married and I'm like, well, I got my purpose and you got yours and you work on your purpose individually. But then we get married and I'm like, well, I got my purpose and you got yours, and you work on your purpose while I go over here and work on mine. How do we bring the two purposes together?
Speaker 2:switch lanes. Who's doing the? Switch, you know you both switching lanes. I'm listening, I'm listening. I guess I know you got an answer, so go ahead.
Speaker 3:How can you imagine?
Speaker 2:Yeah, because honestly, I know the order is the the topic of this, what we're talking about now, so it has something to do with order.
Speaker 3:It does Very much. So it is a matter of the husband understanding the wife's purpose and the wife understanding the husband's purpose, and then finding the common purpose between the two.
Speaker 2:I didn't say that.
Speaker 3:No.
Speaker 2:That's what I meant to say. No, I demonstrated it like that. But no, yeah, the husband finding, as I say, you have to know your purpose, and maybe because I'm trying to be outside of you and I because we that was one of the things we talked about in our singleness.
Speaker 2:Yeah, but that the people need to know that, ok, well, that's one of the things we talk about in our singleness was our purpose, and that's what kind of drawn us not knowing that we were going to be married. We were just talking about purpose as individuals. You know it, the the uh discussion of us possibly, you know, getting together came up and here we are seven years later. But yeah, we, we discussed purpose individually in our singleness. Yeah, yeah, you remember those nights.
Speaker 3:Yeah.
Speaker 1:Okay, Now don't get it twisted y'all. No, it wasn't it was.
Speaker 3:It was, it was G, it was G, ain't even no P G. It was G. It was definitely G, right at G.
Speaker 2:But it was interesting. Those conversations lasted till four in the morning.
Speaker 3:Yes.
Speaker 2:And um, they were very. We you know we were. How would you say, when I was boosting you up, you boosted me up.
Speaker 3:Yeah, we yeah, yeah, that's that's what we did. We poured into one another as friends, um, and it became a continuation. One of the things that's very important how do you keep God in the center of the marriage? One of the things that's very important is that you have to, basically everything that is done must be done together Finances, making the sound decisions, those that have children that are involved.
Speaker 2:Just, a couple of questions we want to answer.
Speaker 3:Yeah, making sound decisions on everything within you guys, even down to how to discipline the children. Yes, right, because let me tell you something about these children, especially this generation they will play on their parents, right, if they know they can get away with it.
Speaker 2:Oh, absolutely. I know, I played on mine Even back then. Yeah, so it's it's. I don't know if it's worse now, but it's the same then. Yeah, so it's it's. I don't know if it's worse now, but it's the same. You know, this generation does, in a different way, do the same thing. Yeah, nothing to wonder the sun.
Speaker 3:Okay, so I want to dive into some questions. Thank you, hubby, for recognizing these questions.
Speaker 2:Edwards had asked this question about um. Did the holy spirit speak to me when wifey didn't receive all your love at first? Yes, my Holy Spirit did speak to me and that's why I continued. It was. It wasn't about me in the situation where, where she and I were getting to know each other, it wasn't about me, it was about her. So my Holy Spirit was making me concentrate on that. He was telling me not to that. What she was doing wasn't personal. The way she was responding to me wasn't personal because, like I said, we had some great phone conversations but when she would lash out at some things, it was uh, she showed.
Speaker 2:She was actually showing me where she was hurting so those you know and and at those times, that's when you know your spirit is telling you that's what it's about. You don't take that personal, you continue to love her is telling you that's what it's about. You don't take that personal, you continue to love her, even even though she's doing that.
Speaker 3:It's not personal, so Look at you getting on deep on me and stuff.
Speaker 2:Okay, good question.
Speaker 3:Y'all listen. This is the first of me hearing this. I've never heard him explain it that way. I was like wait a minute. Oh, he threw something in there. Oh, Okay, the Holy Spirit was showing him where I was hurt. I think I'm going to take that and run with it. Y'all, I'm going to use that for quite some time, but no, that's really really good and I'll be honest with y'all, it's a continuation.
Speaker 2:Don't do that, danita. Don't do that, don't do that.
Speaker 3:I'll be honest, but I thank you. I'll be honest with y'all. It is a continuation and, in all honesty, him loving me, the way that he loved me, taught me how to love with no conditions. I learned from him how to love with no conditions because it was so consistent and I seen how it was like God's word came to light pertaining love.
Speaker 3:What does love look like? What is kingdom love? What is unconditional love? What does that mean? What does that look like? And I actually got to see it right before my eyes through him. So it taught me a lot of things about love. It even changed how I loved my children and the way I love my children, because the very same thing that he mentioned, god showed him where I was hurting and I was showing him where I was hurting and God just confirmed that same exact thing was happening to me with my children. God began to show me how to love my children where they were and not love them according to my own love language. That's another book that's real good the Five Love Languages. That's a really, really good, insightful book, because everybody has a different love language.
Speaker 2:Yes.
Speaker 3:And when you understand their love language and also understand their purpose, you're able to meet them where they are Right, even when you have to provide them tough love.
Speaker 2:Okay, they are right, even when you have to provide them tough love. Okay, early on, god showed me those children and their basically their futures, and um, from that you begin to discern what their purpose is and, like marianne, you can see the love that child has, the unconditional love that child has, the unconditional love that child has, the healing power that child has. You know, it showed me that actually she was too strong to have one love interest in her life. I was like you ain't going to handle a boyfriend, you ain't going to handle a husband, just because you're going to be busy spreading that love around. You know, and and I don't mean that in the wrong way, I what I mean is that she was just. You know, she loves animals, she loves everything, she loves everything god because she loves god yes yeah, and she'll tell you in a minute.
Speaker 3:I mean, when she was like three years old, she'll say my boyfriend's name is Jesus. Right, that's right, that's right. And you know, and even with our boys, yeah, now, once again, purpose there's.
Speaker 2:I've seen purpose in the boys. So you got to know how to like, she said. You got to know how to meet them where they are and you know it's difficult when you're trying to parent because you know you see all the crazy stuff they do. But you have to remember they're young children. They have to be, you know, led, guided, molded and shown how to you know, take direction from their spirits once they realize that there is a Holy Spirit within them as well. Because these children, their church children, they've been in the church, so whether or not.
Speaker 2:They want to say that they're listening.
Speaker 3:It's permeating, it's permeating them and with you stating that as as a married couple, as a kingdom married couple, you don't even realize how much of an example you are to your children and, in all honesty, you don't realize how much your children watch and mock what you do. Yeah, and it was interesting because I was just sharing with my husband, I was telling him, I said listen, because don't get me wrong we get so busy, tied up and whatever have you, sometimes we don't make the bed and sometimes a bed's not made and everything like that. This is listen, we real on this show. Okay, we're transparent. We don't try to make our lives seem like it's all peachy, creamy and we do everything correct?
Speaker 3:No, not at all. There are times where we don't make our bed. We just get up out of bed, we go shower, get ready and that's it. We go and sometimes our room could get a little little junky because we put stuff out of order. They go to out of order again to talk about that order and putting stuff out of place and stuff like that.
Speaker 3:And I told my husband, I said you know what we do, all this fussing at our children about keep stuff off the floor. Make sure you, when you get out the bed, you make your bed soon as you get out the bed. And I told him, I said but sweetie, I said babe, I said just a suggestion. We're telling them to do those things but we're not implementing what we're telling them. As God said, don't just be a hero of the word, but the doer of the word. We can't just speak to them what they need to do if we're not applying what we're speaking. My God, somebody catch that. And that's the same with God's word. That's the same within your marriage. That's the same with any relationship.
Speaker 3:Anytime you're pouring into an individual, like a lot of times when the lord had me pour into the, into my husband. It's something that I have already experienced or gone through, or god has given me insight on, and we'll have a discussion about it, right, and it gets so good and, and can I tell you, he's more receptive of it because it's like what she's saying, she is absolutely right and I've seen her walk it out. She's not just giving me instruction, she's giving me instructions that she's already followed. So at that point, yes, he's still the head. Yes, he's still the head, yes, he's still the, the leader. However, that's at that moment, it's that humbling. Thank you, holy spirit. He humbles himself to get that missing piece of wisdom, or missing piece that he could not figure out. Hold on right, my rib done, stepped in, my, my, my help me done, stepped in and gave me a whole another perspective and insight on this. And you know what, yeah, that sounds real good.
Speaker 2:Let's do it that way right, and that's the whole submission thing. You know, that's the whole submission.
Speaker 3:Because, honestly, if we go back to, if we go up in Ephesians Ephesians 5, 21,. It says submit to one another out of reverence for Christ, Right? So wait a minute. That just threw a whole another perspective on that. So it's not just wives, it's not just you submitted to your husband. Your husband submits to God first, just as you would submit to God first and then submit to the God in your husband. However, you guys are submitting to one another because submission simply means acceptance.
Speaker 2:You both have Christ in you, yes, so that should make it a lot easier, you know, for that to occur, because I know that she's coming from a place of Christ and she knows I am as well. So it's not like there should be no tug of war, you know, it's definitely. I mean I guess now every now and then, but we don't butt heads for long because you know one of us will come to our senses.
Speaker 3:Yeah, we do. Yeah, we have a whole lot of that. We definitely have a whole lot of that and, honestly, I don't care how upset I might get at him or how upset he might get at me. Honestly, we don't stay angry or upset at each other very long. We don't stay quiet or mute ourselves from each other very long, because it disturbs. If I'm doing it to him, it'll disturb and disrupt my spirit and I'm uneasy and although I still got an attitude because I don't want to go to talk to him because he's wrong and he need to come talk to me, first we go separate, we talk to god, and then we come back.
Speaker 3:However, it always ends up we come back at the same time, or it'll be right when it's time to get ready for bed, or anything like that. He might mush me like this, and I'll be like I'm still mad at you. And he'll be like, okay, well, let's talk about it. And I'll be like, oh, now you want to talk, that's just. You know, that's me being the woman in me. You know, give him a hard time a little bit. He's used to it.
Speaker 2:Yeah, but you realize that that's what it is. Though that's what it's about. He's going to give me a hard time.
Speaker 3:I know that you know so, so, but it's great.
Speaker 3:Husbands know your wife yeah definitely, definitely know their personality, know how they are and you know that changes Know this. This is what I love about my husband. My husband allows me to be me In ministry, outside of the home. He shares me with so many people and he allows me to be me. And what I love about him is he does not stunt my growth. If anything, he's like wait, hold up, hold up, babe, where you going? Wait, wait, I'm right, listen, we growing together. He does not stop what God is developing within me and vice versa. I don't do that with him, and also, we also understand that each other's timing is different. So a lot of times, god may give me things for him, friend. So a lot of times, god may give me things for him. However, it's like far sight and he hasn't gotten there yet. So for him, it seems strange. For him, he doesn't see it, and I cannot get frustrated or get upset because he's not seeing it how I'm seeing it. However, I must, at that time, have an understanding.
Speaker 2:But I tell you, you just bringing it up and bringing it to my attention, although I can't see it now, it's here as I go forward, how you feel is here. So, along my journey, if I see anywhere that starts to remind me that you know, she told you that If I see that it's going that way, then I know to reverse gears, you know, and then we'll talk about that too. Like you know, I know I was being hardheaded when you told me such and such and such, but I'm just letting you know that. You know, now it's starting to come to pass those things that you've mentioned, and I'm letting you know that I'm, you know I'm going in a different direction.
Speaker 3:And vice versa. Honestly, there's things that the Lord has shown me, shown him pertaining me, that he's told me that I'm like okay, yeah, Okay, and it should be no offense in that you, and there should be no offense in that.
Speaker 2:There should be no offense in that.
Speaker 3:And I receive it and I remember, I know it's coming from a good place.
Speaker 2:I assume my wife don't want nothing bad for me and I definitely don't want anything bad for her. I mean same thing with our children. You try to get them to avoid the pitfalls that you see coming, especially the ones that you've the holes that you fell in, and you try to let them know and you just hope that same thing it's here, even though, as they're going forward, when they see, you know they'll see. Yeah, dad on mine told me about this and maybe I need to rethink this.
Speaker 2:And that's what you pray, that your children get that.
Speaker 3:So, with you saying that and you said falling in the pitfalls, I'm glad that you said because I want to go into the opposition portion of it.
Speaker 3:We kind of dived into order, let me say it in order. We kind of dived into order, let me say it in order. We kind of dived into origin, we dived into order. I want to close out with the opposition because there was something and I'm going to read it straight out of the book that Tony Evans said. That was so good and it was so important and I wanted to read this piece. It says Satan's goal for you and your spouse is to rob you of your own spiritual championship bid and drag you down to his defeatist level. What I thought about in that scripture where it states Satan is committed to seeing to it that you never reach your potential. That was so good because, again, a house divided cannot stand. And the scripture said one can chase a thousand Right, and then it said two can do what?
Speaker 2:Chase 10,000. Right, Just was I right.
Speaker 3:One can chase a thousand. Was I right, you was right. Two can chase 10, was.
Speaker 2:I right, you was right Two can chase a thousand.
Speaker 3:So with that, good evening Josh, Good evening Thank you for joining.
Speaker 2:Thank you for joining in. Thank you for being here.
Speaker 3:So with that, let's go back to Adam and Eve. He was so conniving because God gave Adam the instructions and, mind you, adam is the head, he's the protector, he's the provider, and so with that, he went to Eve. Eve, you know that ain't true.
Speaker 2:Right.
Speaker 3:Now you know you can have so much more. Man. Ain't nothing about to happen to you? God created you. You really think he going to kill you?
Speaker 2:Right See, now, that's twofold order and opposition.
Speaker 3:Right, that was out of order, right. Why you ain't go to the head? Yeah. Why you ain't go to the head? Yeah. Why you ain't go to the one I'll show you what Satan?
Speaker 2:is he out of order?
Speaker 3:Right, he's out of order, that part, right. So with that now Eve is like because, remember, we, the nurturers, we pour into our husbands and our husbands do take our word at value. They do listen. Sometimes they can be stubborn, they can be hardheaded sometimes. However, it keeps it in the mind. So she goes and like Adam, ain't nothing going to happen to this head? Take a bite, notice nothing happened until Adam bit the fruit. When Eve bit the fruit, nothing happened. But when Adam bit the fruit, that's when something happened. Why? Because let's go back to order, right, right.
Speaker 3:So, with that being said, as long as the enemy can keep division, a lot of times when you feel like you're angry at your spouse, you really need to take a step back and really look and say am I angry at my it, my spouse, or is it the situation? Am I upset because the finances aren't where they're supposed to be? Am I upset because the children are being hardheaded, stubborn and not listening? Am I upset because it seems like we can't see eye to eye and make final decisions? Can I tell y'all how to trump that out and how to cancel that? This is why it's so important as a kingdom marriage, even as a kingdom family, to pray daily together. Pray over your finances together, discuss your finances together, discuss your finances together, discuss your children together. You have to have those. Prayer is so important and that's what also keeps the fire and keeps God at the center of your marriage, amen. So I just want to close with this.
Speaker 3:As we discuss the first three chapters origin I can't wait for the next Origin, order and opposition. I want to encourage you, men, women, stay in your lane and bring the lanes together. Y'all know those lanes, matter of fact. Remember when you was like they go like this, the Holy Spirit just gave me a visual. No, what do they do? Merge Right. You know those lanes that started out as two, but then it gives you a sign that this lane is going to merge into. Oh, that's good.
Speaker 2:Lord, learn to drive.
Speaker 3:Learn to drive. Yes, taisha, a family that prays together stays together. So, listen, that is our time this evening. Listen, we excited to play our new close out. Listen, shout out to Prophetic Styles. We thank God for him and we thank God for the connection. Listen, y'all, check him out. Go look at his page. It is Prophetic Styles. Check out his music. He is the artist of this song. So y'all go ahead and enjoy and listen until next time.
Speaker 3:Listen, we're going to pick back up and finish out um opposition. We may give a few more pointers, recap the other two chapters and then we're going to go into the next two chapters. Which is oaf. Listen, y'all. Y'all go ahead, cap to get this book, even if you're not married. It has some good insight in there and, honestly, it's not just for marriage. These principles apply to relationships, period, yes. So listen, we love y'all. Y'all enjoy the rest of your evening. Don't forget. Like share, comment, continue to comment. If you have any questions, put them in the comments. Those that are watching live. We are more than glad to answer any questions. Listen, aspiring authors, do not forget. If you are interested and would like to be interviewed on Speaking to the Kingdom in you, send us an email at publishing at empower me llccom. That is publishing at empower me llccom and I'll go ahead and um pin that in the comments as well. Listen, y'all, enjoy the rest of y'all evening. We are the purpose couple with walk it out inspiration out inspiration.
Speaker 2:Y'all take care, y'all have a good. My saints down in PA, walk it out. Ny. Walk it out PA, walk it out North Carolina, walk it out. Atm Walk it out Maryland, walk it out. Everybody walking in. That's what I'm talking about.
Speaker 3:Walk it out If you were so drunk.
Speaker 2:Time to put some action to the birds that you're talking. Walk it out.
